Let us address the elephant in the room right now. Scheduling intimacy sounds deeply unsexy. I can hear the objections trickling in very slowly. And your responses will land with deadpan seriousness: "Shouldn't it just happen naturally?" "Isn't planning intimacy like scheduling a dentist appointment?" "Where's the passion in that?" Here's the truth I've learned from therapists, researchers, and countless couples I've seen in session, and these are the statements I love to use